Our subtle body language and lifestyles become the beliefs our daughters carry in their tender hearts and mind about their own bodies and worthiness. How we, as mothers, act and behave in-front of them, sets the roots of how they will eventually become. Someone rightfully said, daughters are the shadows of mothers. That is how we create stronger families, communities, countries and world. Love will never go unanswered, no matter what. Period.
Resolve not be belittled by others and to stand up for yourself. Their little hearts, soon to be teenage hearts turning into young hearts will know instantly what to look for in men. How to be treated by them and how much to keep up with. The girls see you, in your everyday relationships, with the men, friends, associates in your life. Every moment is a moment of learning. So be sure to always keep these subtle signs positive and full of learning. It does not mean we are not allowed to break down, but it does mean that we must rise again to set the right examples.
Let our daughters only carry stories of strength, of courage, of kindness. May they arrive stronger, as healers, as teachers, as loving mothers with a very deep knowledge of love to draw from!
Allow them to falter and still be loved, allow them to fail and still be accepted, allow them to hurt and help them heal, allow them to fall and be ready to wipe off the tears. Let them emerge as a stronger version of the new (wo)mankind! Let them emerge as a stronger version of you!
Home is a feeling, warm like the sun Inside everyone needs a safe place to run…
Out of the many blogs I have written on home, good Feng Shui, positioning of the furniture, importance of elements etc, the one thing that underlines it all is “the feeling of home”. You may get everything right in your house per Feng Shui, but what really turns the house into your home is your connection with it, your intuition. I can never talk enough about the importance of a ” Home Naming Ceremony”(read previous blog) in this regard. Our homes are the reflections of our lives. The happiest and the saddest moments are often contained in them. And sometimes, unknowingly, we turn our homes into “houses of pain”. This is a very subtle change that takes years to fructify. And it all starts when we start to overload our homes with things that do not bring us joy or serve us any purpose. Ah! the dresses in the closet that do not fit us anymore, but yes one day when we lose weight, they will…surely worth keeping them for a few years. My advice, if you don’t lose the weight within one year, donate them! For years I have been a victim of this thought process, until my senses gave up on looking at the same clothes in my closet that were not worn for years! And what about that wedding dress that is still hangs in closet after a divorce? Don’t forget the old tea set you inherited from grandma, she will surely be unhappy in heaven if you part with it now, even if you have never used it or never will.
The general rule to follow is, if you are not using something for over 6 months, put it in a box, in your garage. If you don’t miss that stuff in another 3 months, donate the box- pronto! Whatever brings your energy down, does not belong in your space. Get rid of the thought, ” what if one day I need it”, the chances are, if you didn’t need it so far, you possibly won’t in a couple years. And that’s how you really honor your space and intuition. Learning to let go of old obligations to things that serve as reminders of what didn’t happen in your life, is an art to be embraced. Give yourself permission to throw them away. Let your home speak of your tastes, your life, your adventures and your happiness. I also would like to mention here that things bought in a garage sale, often have the energy of the previous owner, so unless you know the family well, keep away from other people’s seconds.
“Home is the starting place of love, hope and dreams. The magic thing is that it feels good to leave, but it feels even better to come back”. Your space is sacred to the memories you make, the relationships you build and where the laughter never ends. Such a space must be honored and taken care of. Keeping things clutter-free and organized, goes a long way in helping you connect with your space. Open the windows of your home to let the fresh air and sunlight seep in and bless your home. Invite birds via bird feeders and bird baths to stir up the chi with other life forms. Pet a fish or a dog or a cat or something! Keep your front entrance clean and beautiful and hang wind chimes. Bring in some plants and change those bed sheets every so often. Keep a mental tab of what you own and how much. Often times we lose track of our possessions and they become a dead part of our homes blocking the chi. Making a home out of a house does not require you to spend a lot of money, it just requires you to be conscious of your space!
Embrace your home. Make it the best feeling in the world!
Much as the bunk beds help save the space they are not considered good Feng Shui for the following 3 reasons:-
The person sleeping on top will experience sleeplessness because of the lack of support directly below the body.
There will be reduced energy getting to the lower bed because of the force of the upper bed on top.
The person sleeping in the lower bunk will feel inferior to the person in the upper bunk, potentially igniting fights between the two.
Its hard to come to terms with something like this that saves space, looks elegant and makes the room look bigger. And how lovely is it for kids to share their space and learn how to coexist. So what can we do to make the bunk beds Feng Shui conducive? Before we look at these tips, I would still like to stress that if space is not a constraint, keep the bunk beds as your last option. Lets see how we can make bunk bed adjustments.
First and foremost, make sure that the bunk beds are not made out of metal. They must be made out of solid wood. The element wood supports sleep and gives a sense of stability. If the bunk beds can be built into the wall, that would further add an element of strength and stability. Make sure that each bed has its own headboard. I cannot stress enough the importance of headboards for good sleep. Secondly, paint the bottom of the upper bunk or cover it with a fabric with calming colors, night sky, clouds, etc. Just make sure to avoid too dark of a color, as you don’t want your child in the bottom bunk to feel like they are in deep water. This would give them a sense of not being under someone else’s bed and hence would reduce the feeling of being dominated or inferior. Thirdly, make sure that the bunk bed does not squeak or rock when kids are flopping around on the top bunk. This is both unsafe and takes away the feeling of being grounded. Having a solid stable bunk beds is imperative. Lastly, secure the top bunk bed from all sides so there is a feeling of security while sleeping on top. It might be a good idea to have a tent like enclosure on top or even solid wood support on all 3 sides while a headboard on fourth.
If you feel your kids are fighting a lot and sleeping on bunk beds, I recommend a small water fall in the room. The soothing sound of water helps with sleep while the element water helps diminish the fire a.k.a fights. Feng Shui is very intentional, so make sure your adjustments hold the right intentions. Be sure that the bunk bed is placed in the command position, i.e the door of the room, can be seen while a person is on the bed. Also make sure that no windows are covered in the room by the bunk beds. Pay close attention to the colors in the children’s room. The kids room must be fun yet provide a feeling of security. Use of earthy natural colors is highly recommended while avoiding the fiery reds and royal blues.
Your kids must enjoy their space while simultaneously connecting with it. If your kid is constantly agitated or irritated, and none of the above solutions seem to help, it might be time to pick up the phone and call me!
Corporate settings use two general seating arrangements: individual offices (one room per worker) and the dreaded cubicle (or office isolation tank). The move to more people sharing space, whether in cubicles or not, contributes to an admirable flattening of hierarchies within the corporation. However, the downside is sterility, a lack of privacy and personal space; you may feel like a unit in a machine rather than a person with individual needs and desires. Should that be the case with you, there is an immediate need for correction, for a feeling of stagnation and boredom in a space that you spend 6-10 hours in, is not only detrimental for your progress but also your well-being! This is how you can address these situations.
In a private cabin, make sure that the desk is in a command position, meaning, when you are sitting down, you either face the door or can see it without having to turn yourself. If your office is extremely irregular( not a square or rectangular), you can have inexplicable setbacks and continuous frustrations at work. If you can’t switch offices, you can apply the special nine green plants cure: Add nine healthy new plants to your space all on the same day. The plants should be purchased new for the purpose of this cure. If convenient, you can place the plants near particular irregularities in the room, such as strange angles, posts, cramped areas, and so on. Otherwise, just stick them where they fit best. For full results from this cure, visualize that your job and career are going very well. If you have glass walls try to cover them with blinds to create some privacy. Like the majority of office workers, if you work under fluorescent lighting, you can use a couple helpful hints. You may be able to replace the tubes yourself with healthier full-spectrum ones or let the natural light find its way into your space by keeping the blinds off the windows. I love the idea of having a water fountain in the cabin for some soothing sounds of water to address the high stress situations. Its best to keep the pictures of loved ones and family out of your space of work, so as to not confuse the chi with relaxation, and to be able to focus better. Its your office, not your home. Lets keep the energies separate. Having a painting or a picture of a mountain brings good luck and prosperity in work. If that can be incorporated, there isn’t a better success adjustment!
A cubicle is a much trickier Feng Shui situation than an office room. Cubicles are unfortunate paradigms of vulnerability for the individual worker. One of the chief problems is that you don’t use a real desk but work from a counter top, unless you work in one of the large manager type cubicles. However, you can do plenty to improve your situation. Bringing living flowing energy into your work space is a great idea. Try to have a small gold fish bowl on your desk to bring in the water and Fire element (don’t forget to feed the fish or change the water every so often). Place a plant in your space to invite some wood and Earth energy. Always be sure to keep live plants and not fake ones. Should your back be facing the entry of the cubicle, try to put a mirror in front of you, to reflect the entry. This is an excellent Feng Shui adjustment if you cannot place your desk in a command position. This adjustment helps with feeling of vulnerability at work and keeps your grounded.
Having a visualization chart in your office space is a great reminder of what you want to attract in your life. Simply take a chart sheet and place pictures that inspire you to be better, happier and more successful. Visualization, as a quantum technique, is gaining a lot of popularity, for you attract from universe, what you feed your senses. I like to put pictures of places I want to travel to, inspirational figures and coaches, sayings that inspire me and sometimes words that represent success on my “Visualization Charts”. My clients have found a great amount of success via this technique.
Last but not the least, try to keep the clutter at bay.The idea is that clearing away clutter helps bring in vital energy which promotes clarity and focus. Overall, 70% of your desk should be cleared and be empty space. You want to be able to arrive at a clean desk when you get to work and leave with a clean desk at the end of the day. Taking the extra time to organize things correctly and efficiently will help you from having to do it again in a few months.Another idea is keeping an organized schedule that segments your work accordingly. For instance, do your paperwork once per day. Don’t try to multitask, as it will interfere with your working memory. When scheduling, try to always complete difficult tasks first.
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“Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder” is most often diagnosed in people when they are children, and it carries with them throughout their lives, but perhaps manifesting in different ways. It is recognized as a condition where the person will be very impulsive, will be unable to follow directions well, won’t be able to focus or remember information, and often has trouble organizing or accomplishing other tasks.
My little client, whom I will call Max, was 4 when his mom approached me in desperation after having tried everything under the sun for her son! She was at her wits end, but what we often forget is that it is equally frustrating for the child who is undergoing bouts of ADHD and living with it, while getting judged or misunderstood. On my visit to their home, and to Max’s room I noticed posters of superheros, a big bright car bed, shelves overloaded with books, and lots of gun and sword toys!!! Hmmm……rings a bell? It did to me.
We often underestimate the power of our surroundings and what our mind is feeding off of it. Don’t let the house and what’s inside get out of control. There is no need for a home to be piled high with junk. They don’t do anyone any good, and it will bring both the energy of the ADHD person and the vibe in the house, down. A child who is already overwhelmed in his personal environment is only getting more overwhelmed by the “too much” he sees around him. If a cluttered and disorganized room will create a stressful environment for someone without ADHD, just imagine what it would do for someone with it! Also, it can be useful to not display too many decorative pieces or articles around the house.
If it’s the child who has ADHD, don’t place too many toys or overstimulating items in their room. It will distract from the entire purpose of the child’s bedroom. In Max’s case, his bedroom had posters of super heros which reminded him of all the power struggles and fights, to top it all off he played with only guns and swords. All these are high stimulants for a kid with ADHD. It was imperative to rid his room of these stimulants. The person with ADHD has a mind that is always on the go. It can’t stop doing and thinking and just ticking along. The natural world can be a boon. I recommended Max’s mom to use essential oils to calm his senses down and keep stress balls in his space, that he can squeeze or play with. One great tool for these kids is a rubic cube puzzle. It can keep them occupied for hours and their energy can be well channeled. These toys and tools also help reduce the time with technology, which is a must. Studies are cropping up that are showing the connection between the use of electronics and lack of good sleep which in turn leads to muddled and over stimulated minds.For people with ADHD who are always moving, they especially need their sleep time to recharge and restore themselves to prepare for the next day. So, keep the use of electronics confined to a certain area of the house and for a certain time.
Colors have a significant impact on the way a room feels and the way people think when they enter it. Choose colors that stimulate calming energy such as blues and earthy tones. These colors do not overstimulate or over-energize. Consider painting a kids room in these colors. In Max’s room, the colors of red and orange created too much of fire element. Balancing it out with water and wood was essential. Wood is an earth element and therefore helps to bring calmness and a grounded feeling to the room. So, it was be a good idea to have a wooden bed in Max’s room.
If someone has this mental disorder, it doesn’t mean they aren’t capable, smart, or able to have relationships. But, this disorder can get in the way of a lot of things.As a child, it can display itself as poor behavior in the classroom because of distraction and impulsiveness , or as not doing homework because planning is too difficult. As an adult, it can manifest as forgetting appointments or due dates.Or, it could mean having a lot of relationship troubles because it’s difficult to listen and stay focused when someone is talking for extended periods, and it can be hard to remember dates or everything a partner has said. That is why Feng Shui tips are so great, since they help calm the immediate environment of the child or an adult which reinforces a sense of calm and togetherness in the person. It helps them feel renewed and confident.
In my work with kids, I have noticed a 60-70% change in their behavior immediately after applying Feng Shui tips to their room and space.Healing therapies like “Color Healing” and “Recenter Yourself”, that I offer, have done magic to boost the self confidence of the kids. Using the child’s date of birth, to see what element he is ruled by and then to balance his space with the appropriate elements can go a long way. The use of colors, the placement of furniture to allow the chi to flow freely and taking too much clutter and sound out of their space can help the child feel at home!
90% of us are constantly fighting the weight loss battle. Can Feng Shui help with weight loss? Health has been on my mind lately, since I have worked with 7 families back to back, only on health issues, whether ailing bodies or ailing minds in form of stress, depression or anxiety. My last client approached me for weight loss issues. And I want to take this opportunity to share the Feng Shui weight loss tips in this blog!
For resolving weight loss issues I like to divide the home into 3 sections to be worked upon:
Rest of the home.
The first place you should focus your feng shui efforts when trying to lose weight is your kitchen. The kitchen must have a feng shui sense of freshness and lightness to it, so do give your kitchen a thorough cleaning, and let go of the foods you know you should avoid in order to lose weight. Often times our fridge is cluttered with old and rotten fruits and vegetables. Set up a day once a week and dedicate it to cleaning and organizing your fridge. I like to organize the shelves of my fridge into dairy, meats, and vegetable/raw foods sections and then one shelf just for left over foods. Try not to mix everything up otherwise when you are hungry you might end up grabbing the first sugary thing you can lay your hands on. It is also advisable to bring/buy only that amount of food which is sufficient for 3-4 days. This tip has saved my life!
Organize your pantry according to foods as well. I cook a lot of Indian food so all my beans and pulses that have a long shelf life stay on the top of the pantry shelf while some of the packaged foods that have an expiry, stay on the lower shelves for a quick recycle.
Feng shui color-wise, it is advisable to go for a calm color that will curb the appetite, such as blue, for example. Or, you can choose to go for a stronger presence of green, a very healing feng shui color. Fire feng shui element colors (red, purple, bright yellow, and magenta pink) are best to limit or avoid in the kitchen area.
Display bottles of water, as well as fresh fruits and herbs. Visual pictures of greenery and freshness in form of a tray of fruits or fresh flowers, make you want to eat fresh and healthy. Aerate your kitchen often. Lightness and freshness are the keywords for a feng shui kitchen that will help you lose weight.
The next space to carefully inspect with your feng shui eyes is your bedroom. Bedrooms play a huge part in the good feng shui of your whole home, as well as in the state of your health and well-being. Check to be sure that your closets are not cluttered and overstuffed. Leave the space under your bed clear, do not use it for storage. Also make sure that have a picture of yourself in the bedroom that exudes health and wellness. Seeing yourself from a time you felt good about your body and health, helps us move to that goal faster.
Clean out and clear out your whole home; this will promote a better flow of Chi or feng shui energy. Good circulation in your environment is directly related to a good energy circulation in your body and the release of energy blockages. Relocate your workout equipment where you will actually use it. E.g a treadmill in the garage may not be of much use in the winter if you live in a cold state like me. Strategically place a mirror in areas where you will see yourself and reinforce your resolve to change your image. A mirror on your pantry door may be a good reminder not to grab that packet of chips when you are trying to lose weight. Also try and eat all your meals at a table.
Vary the color and texture of the foods you eat and the containers you serve them on. Balance the yin and yang by placing light colored foods in brightly colored containers, and serving a mixture of hot and spicy foods with lighter and milder flavors. Since fruits and vegetables are the most colorful foods, when you mix their colors you naturally make healthier choices. Be sure to buy fresh ingredients, because processed food has stagnant chi energy. Keep a bowl of fresh fruit on your counter to attract positive chi into your kitchen.
Throughout your home, especially in the feng shui East area of your home, display images of vibrant health and joy. You can also choose to work with feng shui crystals. Carrying small crystals that jive well with your health are a great way to remind yourself of your health goals.
I am a living example of not only losing weight but also building optimal muscle mass with the help of Feng Shui. Remember, Feng Shui can only help aid your journey towards weight loss, you have to give your diet and exercise optimal attention as well. Once you incorporate these Feng Shui tips in your home, your weight loss journey accompanied with your workouts and diets will do wonders for your body and soul and when you feel like quitting, your environment will remind you, why you started! Every new day is another chance to change your life!